Gujarati Pre Wedding Ceremonies

Chandlo Maatli – Acceptance of the marriage

Chandlo Maatli is considered the first ceremony of the wedding where the formal announcement is made. During this ceremony, the father of the bride along with four male relatives visit the groom’s place with a steel container or maatli full of sweets and gifts for the groom and his family. He then applies chandlo or a red circle at the center of the groom’s forehead and gives him the maatli and some money. The marriage date also fixed at this ceremony.

Gol Dhana – Sagaai (Engagement)

Gol Dhana is basically the engagement ceremony, however, the term means coriander seeds and jaggery. It is apparent that these items are distributed at the event that takes place at groom’s place. The family of the bride arrives at groom’s house with gifts and sweets and then the couple exchanges rings.

Ganesh Maatli/ Ganesha Sthapan – Lord Ganesha Pooja

Ganesha Sthapan or Ganesha Maatli is said to be the beginning of the wedding ceremonies and rituals. In this ceremony, both the families conduct Ganesh Pooja at their home few days prior to the wedding. Couple and their families pray for their happy and successful married life.

Mehendi Ceremony

Like in every Indian wedding, Gujaratis also host a Mehendi function for the bride. Mostly this ceremony take place two days before the wedding. The hands and feet of the bride are decorated with henna amidst the singing of folk songs and a bit of dance as well.

Mandap Mahurat

This is an auspicious ceremony where the parents of the couple seek blessings of Mother Earth and also take permission from her to start the digging of a piece of the land to erect a mandap.

Griha Shanti

Griha Shanti ceremony is held immediately after the Mandap Mahurat. In this ceremony the blessing of all the nine planets of the solar system is seeked by both the bride’s and groom’s family. Griha Shanti is a mandatory ceremony in the Gujarati wedding.

Pithi – Sandalwood Paste

Pithi is similar to haldi ceremony in which a paste of sandalwood, turmeric, saffron, rosewater and perfume is applied to the groom by friends and family at their respective homes. The turmeric included in the paste is considered auspicious and also a beauty enhancer.

Sanji/Sangeet Sandhya

This is one of the most fun filled ceremonies of Gujarati wedding. In this event all the family members and friends gather to perform the traditional garba dance and make merry singing the folk songs as well.

Mameru

Also known as Mosaalu, Mameru ceremony takes place one or two days prior to the wedding day. In this ceremony, the maternal uncle of the bride visit her and gives sweets and gifts like saree, jewellery and other clothes.

Gujarati Post Wedding Ceremonies

Vidaai

This ceremony sees the departurse of the bride from her own home after the wedding is concluded. It is quite an emotional event where the bride and her family get teary eyed.

Ghar Nu Laxmi

In this Gujarati post wedding ceremony, the bride is welcomed into the groom’s home as the Goddess Laxmi who shall bring good fortune in the house. The mother-in-law places a vessel filled with rice at the entrance and then the bride is asked to spill the vessel by touching it with her right foot. This ritual symbolizes wealth and the bride’s acceptance of her responsibilities towards her new home.

Aeki Beki

After the Ghar Nu Laxmi, the couple is asked to game called Aeki Beki. In this game, a tray of water is mixed with milk and sindoor (vermilion) and several coins are placed along with a ring. Then the couple is asked to find a ring, it is said whoever finds a ring four out of seven times shall rule the household. The day is concluded with prayers offered to the God for blessing the newlywed couple.